Embracing the Brutal Mindset

It’s been a bit since my last post, but I wanted to check in with the current state of facesitting in my relationship. My top has decided “brutal” sessions should play a prominent role in our day-to-day routine. Sometimes she’s nice and we have a fun time. Other time, she wants to bring me to the edge of what I can handle and play with that line – that’s the brutality she’s looking for.

In exploring this topic, we’ve come up with a series of different looks of what brutal can mean on a given day. I’ll write more about this soon, but here’s a starting point

Core “Brutal Is…” Mantra

“Brutal is placed.
Brutal is held.
Brutal is changed.
Brutal doesn’t ease.”

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Control-Focused Version

“Brutal is what I place.
Brutal is what I keep.
Brutal is what I change.
Brutal is mine to decide.”

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Cruelty-Leaning Version

“Brutal is feeling it build.
Brutal is carrying it forward.
Brutal is knowing I could ease…
and choosing not to.”

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Escalation Version

“Brutal is enough…
then more.
Then more again.”

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Edge-Holding Version

“Brutal is right there.
Not past it.
Not eased.
Held.”

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Ultra-Condensed (Looping)

“Brutal is placed.
Brutal builds.
Brutal doesn’t ease.”

My favorite sessions would definitely follow the escalation model… “and then more again” She knows me so well!