If you’ve got a partner who enjoys facesitting but hasn’t yet developed the stamina—or the craving—for long, dominant rides, the good news is: they can be trained. In fact, they want to be trained. Being trained into a smother-hungry, compliant, stay-put bottom is a gift for both of you.
This post is all about how to build a habit—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. It’s about creating a dynamic where your bottom not only endures more, but needs more. Where facesitting becomes part of your rhythm together, not just a special treat.
Start Small, Stay Firm
Start with shorter sessions, but set expectations. This isn’t a casual ride—it’s a protocol. Whether you begin with two minutes or ten, make it clear they are not to move, not to speak, not to squirm. Treat every session like a training opportunity.
Reward obedience. Ignore whining. Use a timer if needed. Let them know: “You hold position until I say so.” The repetition creates the habit.
Add a countdown or pressure phase: sit gently for a minute, then go full weight for 30 seconds. Let them know when to expect intensity. Over time, reduce the warning and increase the challenge.
Repetition is Queen
Consistency is everything. Make it part of your weekly—or daily—routine. Even a short sit every day builds muscle memory and anticipation. The body adapts. The brain adjusts. Soon, that flood of scent, weight, and helplessness becomes something they ache for.
Make it casual. “I’m watching a show—get in position.” Or make it intimate: “I’ve had a long day. I want to sit on you for a while.” The shift toward normalizing facesitting makes it less about special scenes and more about your way of existing together.
Repetition also teaches stillness. Don’t let them wiggle or reposition without permission. Every squirm is a moment of resistance—and every moment of stillness is a win.
Use Control Markers
Incorporate signals or protocols: a tap to request air (that may or may not be granted), a position they take when they’re ready, or a ritual phrase. These build a rhythm of power exchange and help deepen the mindset.
Want to be cruel? Try casually waving off a tap now and then: “You’re fine.” Push them a little. Make them work for the breath—and then praise them when they hold out.
You can also assign ranks or levels: “You’ve earned Level 2—no more hands for signaling.” Add blindfolds, bondage, or music to remove distractions and center focus on the act.
Push Their Limits—With Care
Each session, take them just a little further. More time. Less air. Heavier sits. Layer in bondage or remove their ability to signal. The goal is to show them how much they can take—and then reward them for taking it.
Stretch sessions intentionally: “One more minute.” “Not yet.” “Almost done.” That tease, that denial, makes them crave the release of obedience even more.
Try introducing endurance goals: “Today I want 15 minutes under me without tapping.” Give them a target. Let them fail—and let them try again. Discipline becomes devotion.
Anchor the Experience with Ritual
Introduce small rituals to signal what’s happening. A gesture, a word, or a collar. Have them lie in position before you sit—waiting, ready. Let the anticipation be part of the training.
Ritual creates anticipation, which deepens submission. Over time, their body will react to the signal alone.
Celebrate Their Endurance
When they take it well, let them know. Praise is power. Mark their progress: “You took ten minutes today without a sound.” Or, “I love how still you were when I came.” Let them feel owned, used, trained.
Create a reward system—whether it’s praise, orgasms, or permission to worship after. Give them something to work toward.
Over time, they’ll find joy not just in the act of facesitting, but in how they submit to it. And that’s when the habit is real.
Are you training someone? Are you the one being trained? Share your tips, rituals, and smother milestones in the comments below.
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