If you and your partner are looking to increase the intensity of facesitting, there are several ways to build on the experience safely while maintaining trust, communication, and mutual enjoyment. Whether you want to explore physical intensity, a deeper power dynamic, or enhanced sensory elements, here are some suggestions to elevate the experience:
1. Gradually Increase the Amount of Pressure
- Shift to Full Weight Sitting: If you’ve been hovering or keeping some weight on your knees, you can gradually increase intensity by sitting more fully on your partner’s face. Make sure to check in regularly to ensure they’re comfortable and can breathe easily.
- Change Positioning: Leaning forward or backward while sitting changes the distribution of your weight, creating different sensations. For example, leaning back can increase pressure on their nose or mouth, while leaning forward targets the chin and jaw.
2. Add Blindfolds or Sensory Deprivation
- Blindfolds: By adding a blindfold, you remove your partner’s ability to see, heightening their other senses and making the sensations of touch, pressure, and even scent more intense.
- Earplugs or Headphones: Blocking your partner’s ability to hear can increase focus on physical sensations. You can play music through headphones or use earplugs for enhanced sensory isolation.
3. Introduce a Power Dynamic
- Verbal Domination: Facesitting naturally incorporates elements of control, but you can amplify this by using verbal dominance. Speak to your partner in a way that emphasizes the power dynamic, reinforcing that you are in control of the experience.
- Commands and Instructions: Give your partner instructions or commands during facesitting, such as telling them when to adjust their position or when they can or can’t breathe. This adds a psychological layer of intensity.
4. Play with Breath Control
- Shorten Breathing Breaks: If you’re experienced with facesitting and both partners are comfortable with breath control, you can increase intensity by briefly restricting your partner’s breathing. Fully covering their nose and mouth for short periods of time adds intensity, but always ensure they can signal for breaks.
- Use a Queening Stool for Controlled Breath Play: If you’re not comfortable with fully restricting airflow, a queening stool allows your partner to breathe more easily while still experiencing closeness and pressure.
5. Incorporate Restraints
- Light Bondage: Adding restraints can enhance the power dynamic by limiting your partner’s movement. Start with light bondage, such as tying their hands to the bed or using soft cuffs. This creates a heightened sense of vulnerability without being overly restrictive.
- More Restrictive Bondage: For a more intense experience, explore tying both your partner’s arms and legs, restricting their movement entirely. This increases the intensity but requires careful monitoring for safety and comfort.
6. Try Different Fabrics and Clothing
- Textured Fabrics: Wearing certain fabrics like leather, latex, or rough denim can add a new sensory layer. These materials create more friction and can intensify the sensations for your partner.
- Clothing or Lingerie: Wearing lingerie or specific outfits can make the experience feel more intimate. You can build anticipation by sitting fully clothed or partially clothed, adding layers to the dynamic.
7. Use Furniture for Extended Play
- Queening Stools: A queening stool or smother box allows you to sit for longer periods without applying all your weight directly on your partner’s face, giving them the chance to breathe more easily while still experiencing the intensity.
- Chairs or Sofas: Sitting on a soft chair or sofa with your partner’s head resting on the edge allows you to apply more pressure comfortably and safely, making it possible to enjoy longer sessions..
8. Extend the Session
- Longer Sessions: As both you and your partner become more comfortable with facesitting, you can gradually increase the length of your sessions. Take regular breaks to allow your partner to breathe and adjust, but longer sessions naturally create more intensity due to the physical and mental endurance required.
Important Safety Reminders
While increasing intensity can be thrilling, always keep safety at the forefront:
- Constant Communication: Check in regularly, even as things become more intense. Use clear signals (a safe word or tap-out gesture) to ensure both partners remain comfortable, especially when engaging in breath control or bondage.
- Monitor Your Partner: Pay attention to your partner’s breathing and comfort levels. Ensure that they can signal for breaks or adjustments as needed.
- Stay Informed: Before introducing elements like breath control or restrictive bondage, ensure that both partners understand the risks involved and how to engage safely.
By incorporating these suggestions gradually, you and your partner can explore higher levels of intensity in a safe and enjoyable way. Just remember that trust and communication are key to ensuring a positive experience for both of you.
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