Introduction to Basic Facesitting Positions

Facesitting involves several different positions that can be adjusted to suit both partners’ preferences and comfort levels. Each position offers a unique experience, varying in intensity, pressure, and control. Here are some of the basic facesitting positions to explore:

1. Forward Facesitting (Facing Head)

In this position, the top faces the bottom’s head with the front of the top’s body visible to the bottom.

How to do it: The top straddles the bottom’s face, with their knees on the floor positioned on either side of their partner’s head.
What it feels like: This offers a different view for both partners, with the top seeing their partner’s face. This position can be more intense because it places more of the top’s weight on the bottom’s face. The bottom will be able to make eye contact and feels very intimate for both parties.
Intensity: Like forward facesitting, the top can control the weight by adjusting their posture. Leaning forward or backward can increase or decrease pressure.
Comfort tips: It can be helpful to use a pillow under your partner’s head for extra support in this position. The bottom’s nose will end up in your crotch.

2. Reverse Facesitting (Facing Feet)

In this position, the person on top (the “top”) faces the legs or feet of the person on the bottom. Here’s how it works:

How to do it: The top straddles the bottom’s body, with their knees on the floor either side of their partner’s chest, facing their feet. The butt is lowered down to cover the bottom’s face.
What it feels like: This position is common because it allows the top to control the pressure while keeping good balance. It also gives the bottom a clear view of the top’s butt.
Intensity: You can adjust the weight on your partner’s face by hovering slightly or sitting more fully. Leaning forward or backward can change the sensation.
Comfort tips: Rest your weight on your knees and only lower onto your partner’s face as much as they’re comfortable with. The bottom’s nose will rest against your gluteal cleft (aka butt crack).

3. Side-Saddle Facesitting

This is a less common, but very effective, position where the top sits with one leg on either side of their partner’s head, facing sideways.

How to do it: The top sits with one leg in front of the bottom’s face and the other leg behind, facing sideways in relation to the partner’s body.
What it feels like: This position provides a different angle and allows the top to rest more of their weight on the bed or surface. It can feel less intense since the weight is more distributed, making it ideal for beginners.
Intensity: The top can easily adjust how much weight they place on the bottom’s face, making it a great option for those worried about pressure.
Comfort tips: This position gives the top more control over the amount of pressure without needing to hover or adjust too much. You’ll need to find a place to put your bottom’s nose and it doesn’t naturally line up in this position.

4. Squatting or Hovering Facesitting

In this position, the top hovers over their partner’s face without applying full weight, staying on their feet.

How to do it: The top hovers or squats over the bottom’s face, using their feet or knees for support rather than sitting fully down.
What it feels like: This position can be more physically demanding for the top, but it gives them complete control over how much pressure they apply. It allows the bottom more breathing space and time to adjust to the sensations.
Intensity: The top can lower themselves gently or hover higher to adjust the pressure, allowing for precise control of intensity.
Comfort tips: If this position becomes tiring, it’s easy to switch to a kneeling position to rest.

5. Queening Stool or Furniture-Assisted Facesitting

This position involves the use of a queening stool (a piece of furniture designed for facesitting) or another supportive surface.

How to do it: The top sits on a queening stool or similar object with their partner’s head underneath. The stool has an open center, allowing for breathing space while still offering closeness.
What it feels like: This position allows for a more extended session, as it doesn’t require the top to fully bear their own weight. The bottom can breathe more easily while still experiencing the pressure and closeness of facesitting.
Intensity: The stool controls the pressure, so this is a more moderate-intensity option.
Comfort tips: This position is ideal for longer sessions or for couples who want to focus on comfort and safety while still enjoying the experience.

Safety Tips for All Positions

Communication: Always check in with your partner about how they’re feeling. Use non-verbal signals if necessary, especially if the bottom’s mouth is covered.
Adjust Pressure: The top should control how much weight they apply and be ready to adjust or hover if the pressure feels too intense for the bottom.
Breathing: Take frequent breaks and allow your partner to breathe comfortably, especially if you’re using positions that involve full weight sitting.
Use of Furniture: Furniture like a queening stool or soft pillows can make the experience more comfortable for both partners.

It’s Time for Full Weight!

The top can shift any of these positions to full weight by changing the primary point from the floor to the bottom’s face and body. Forward and reverse positions offer the best experience and will increase the intensity of the session immediately. Generally the transition is made by moving the tops feet out from underneath and extending the legs straight out. Here are some quick tips for the full weight top:

Use cushioning: Place pillows under your partner’s head for extra support and comfort while sitting.
Stay in control: As the top, you control the pressure and intensity, so be attentive to your partner’s body language and reactions.
Don’t rush: Take your time with full-weight facesitting, and don’t be afraid to go slow.

These basic facesitting positions can be customized to your preferences and comfort levels. Start slowly, communicate openly, and experiment with different postures to find what works best for both of you.